Fickle definitions of ‘Manly’


Many of us have grown up with ideas of what to see as ‘manly’. Whether by religion, political party, culture or personal convictions many of us have come to feel comfortable with some definition of what it means to be a man. Though there may be some similarities many males share, in my personal experience these are usually regional differences and as soon as you travel to a land who’s culture is disconnected from your own, you’ll find few concepts you consider masculine to be viewed in the same way.

I remember growing up in Mexico, all the macho tough kids would put their arms around each other while they walked around – flaunting their man-power as a show of camaraderie and brotherhood. When I moved to Detroit, I put my arm around my buddy Matt and was quickly pushed away and called a queer.